This seems like a bad time to explain that that's pretty much how fighting goes where he's from, which he's starting to realize must be very different than where she's from. That he didn't notice before now says a lot about how weird home is.

However, Bodhi hasn't ever been responsible for things exploding himself, so he doesn't feel too dishonest about not clarifying. He's just a coward in completely different ways. "Well, if they haven't managed shame yet they're not going to start now," he says dryly, finally managing not to stammer. For a moment. "If, uh, if it makes you feel better, I don't think much of anyone got out of that fight alive." He doesn't know how it ended, but he knows how it was going.